I finally stopped being a chicken and hit the video call button on my match today. i’ve been talking to this girl for about a week and kept putting it off because, tbh, video calls can be super awkward if the vibe isn't there. but man, it’s such a game changer. the second her face popped up and she laughed at my dumb joke, all that "is she a bot?" or "are we gonna have chemistry?" anxiety just evaporated. it’s like my brain finally clicked and realized she’s a real human being.
it’s crazy how much you miss when you’re just staring at text bubbles on a screen. we talked for like forty minutes and it honestly felt like five. we talked about our dogs, our terrible cooking skills, and what we’re actually looking for in a partner. i think that’s the best part about this—it builds trust way faster than texting ever could. you get to see the micro-expressions and the real vibe. i used to be so confused by all the lingo people use in their bios too. like, early on, i actually had to look up what does nsa mean in text because i didn't want to look like an idiot or agree to something i wasn't down for. that guide really helped me figure out the "rules" of the road before i got too deep into the dating scene.
anyway, if you’re on the fence about video chatting, just do it. it saves so much time and mental energy. imagine getting ready, driving to a bar, buying drinks, only to realize in 2 minutes that you have zero in common. the video call is like a low-stakes preview that actually feels intimate. plus, it’s just fun? i felt like a teenager again just grinning at my phone screen in my room. it’s definitely made me more confident about actually meeting her in person next weekend. honestly, i think i’m done with the endless weeks of texting. from now on, if we don't video chat within the first few days, i’m gonna assume we’re just spinning our wheels. it’s just so much more personal and positive. has anyone else had a really good experience with this? i feel like it’s totally underrated and people are just too shy to hit the button. btw, if you're worried about how you look, don't be. the right person won't care if your lighting isn't perfect or if your room is a bit messy.
