I finally did it. I actually hopped on a video call with this girl I’ve been talking to for like two weeks, and honestly, my heart was pounding out of my chest right before I hit the button. I usually hate being on camera—I feel like I look like a total thumb from certain angles lol—but man, it changed everything. We’ve been texting non-stop, but you never really know if the vibe is actually gonna translate until you see their facial expressions and hear them laugh in real time. It’s such a game changer for building trust. Like, she’s real, she’s actually as pretty as her photos (actually prettier tbh), and we didn't have any of those awkward silences I was dreading.
It’s weird how much better I feel now. Before this, I was kind of stuck in my head, overanalyzing every little text. I think part of me was still healing from my last relationship and I kept wondering if I was even ready to be out there again. My buddy actually sent me this article about does my ex want me back because he thought I was still hung up on my past, but after that video call tonight? I don't even care anymore. Seeing her smile on the screen just made me realize I'm finally moving forward for real. It’s like all that anxiety about "what if" just evaporated the second she waved at me.
If you're on the fence about video chatting with someone you met online, just do it. It’s way less scary than a first date in person but gives you that same "spark" check. Plus, you get to see their dog or their messy room or whatever, and it just feels so much more human than a screen of cold text. I’m literally buzzing right now. We talked for like two hours and I didn't even notice the time passing. Dating can be such a slog sometimes, but moments like this make the endless swiping worth it. Seriously, if you're vibing with someone, stop texting and just ask for a quick 5-minute chat. It’ll tell you more than a thousand messages ever could. Best decision I've made all month.
